tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3077766509611688863.post713303219272157209..comments2023-08-20T03:00:46.377-05:00Comments on Because I Said So: If You're Right And You're Rude - You're WrongAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01134819304322489721noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3077766509611688863.post-49937758373594728202013-12-12T09:56:35.087-06:002013-12-12T09:56:35.087-06:00Just to clarify here... I was not advocating ruden...Just to clarify here... I was not advocating rudeness. It's never ok to treat people poorly no matter what you are dealing with. Everyone deserves a smile and to be treated with respect. Some people are going to treat you and others bad no matter what - what's important is how you respond.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01134819304322489721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3077766509611688863.post-17055221375923491312013-12-11T14:47:02.877-06:002013-12-11T14:47:02.877-06:00Well, I totally get what you're saying; I'...Well, I totally get what you're saying; I'm in retail. Have been; forever. It happens all the time. Just because you wear the uniform it automatically means that you are these "mean" customers slave. You are automatically lower on the totem pole; they can speak to you in whatever tone they want. <br />I have been in these situations more time than I want to count. I have lost my temper. I have yelled back.<br />But we are to show Christ through us. That is hard. Lately, I just smile; and I really mean it. And I try to find common ground and just start a conversation. "I really love your purse" (even if I don't.). I"I love the color of your nails", etc. It really brightens their face. They soften. Mikey recently told me "Mom, people who are mean just don't have any friends and maybe I need to be their friend". Are we going to be these customers friends? Probably not. Are they going to stop being mean? Maybe not; but lashing back will never work. I have never seen it work. They now just think you are a crazy mad person. <br />Should people be rude? No! Should someone tell them to stop? Sure; maybe this is a good time to look around and when we see someone else be mean to someone WE speak up. It would have been so much more powerful if the other ppl in line would have said to her "she hasn't done anything wrong to you, and you aren't being very nice to her. She is being very helpful". <br />And I really don't think doing it in front of other people is ever good; I think if you grinned and bared it and did everything she asked with a smile even if it was "absolutely after I help these ppl", the ppl around would have thought YOU on a higher level.<br />Will I yell back again? Sure! Sometimes I don't have the patience to deal with it and I don't deserve it, but I don't think it is the best option. Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05294005372439604089noreply@blogger.com